It's not necessary that someone we love will love us back with the same intensity.
When we are in love with someone, we hope that they feel the same way about us. But the sad truth is, that's not always possible. Some people might only like us, and sometimes, liking someone might be followed by love. It's possible that one partner might be ready to settle down while the other is still not there yet.
"A partner that likes you, cares about you," relationship coach and expert, Jenna Ponaman, CPC, tells Bustle. "They will pay attention to the troubling and exciting situations you experience, and they want you to be happy."
However, if a partner doesn't feel the same way, we might think that something is wrong with us. Although, Ponaman says that we shouldn't take it personally. "I know, that sounds kind of crazy but when you think about it, but it really has nothing to do with you. When a person chooses not to move forward in love, they have their own insecurity holding them back," she added.
So, if you are wondering if your partner only likes you but doesn't love you, knowing the signs will help you figure out your future. Here are six signs that might tell you how your partner really feels about you:
There is always the chance that someone stays in a relationship because they like us and our company. That doesn't mean the relationship would progress further. Probably, they love to talk to you and hang out with you, but something might not feel right. "You may start to feel as though your partner is like a [sibling] rather than a lover because you are not getting what you need from them in terms of emotion and intimacy," spiritual counselor, Davida Rappaport, tells Bustle. If you feel this way in your relationship, it's time to talk to them about where the relationship is going.
When someone is in love, they will do everything possible to sort out issues in a relationship. Their partner would be a priority for them, and they would make sure that you know that. Fights and arguments are normal in all relationships but how someone makes a real effort to fix those issues is what matters. If your partner does nothing about it, then they are not as invested in it as you are. Perhaps, they don't see a future together.
One of the easiest ways to make someone feel loved is to tell them and show them. When someone loves us, they would use different ways to tell us about it, but someone who doesn't know how they feel or only like us will cause us to have doubts. After all, communication isn't only about the verbal part, it's also body language and the things that are left unsaid. However, most people move at a different pace when it comes to love. So, just because we are ready, it doesn't mean that they should be too.
Someone who likes you might not always show up for us when we need them. They might treat us like a habit instead of being someone we can rely on 24X7. There might be a million other things occupying their minds and time. Family, work, friends, or anything else - if they use these as reasons to not show up for you or make plans with you, then there's a problem in the relationship. Perhaps, they are not on the same page as you. Or, maybe they expect you to keep on giving without having any intention of giving anything back.
Some people might be slow about taking a relationship forward, but sometimes, people have no intention of having a long-lasting one. So, they might also be reluctant about letting the people who are closest to them meet their significant other. After all, if they change partners often, it's difficult to keep introducing family and friends to new people all the time. This is a red flag, even if they are spending as much time with you as possible. If they go on the defensive or avoid it, when you ask to be introduced to their inner circle, it's possible that your partner doesn't know if they want a permanent bond with you.
Disclaimer: This article is based on insights from different sources. The views expressed here are those of the writer.