More people are having the important conversation about women's safety following the brutal murder of Sarah Everard at the hands of a police officer.
The world is a vastly unsafe place for women. Despite all the advancements, women still walk with the same fear out on the street, and sometimes, even worry about safety at home. But women's safety is NOT a women's issue. The perpetrators of violence against women are mostly men. While men are quick to defend themselves by saying "not all men," it would be best to remind them that if they are not a part of the solution, then they are definitely part of the problem. So when a lot of boys asked this Twitter user about how to make women feel more comfortable, she was glad to educate them.
I live less than five minutes from where Sarah Everard went missing. Everyone is on high alert. Aside from giving as much space as possible on quieter streets and keeping face visible, is there anything else men can reasonably do to reduce the anxiety/spook factor?— Stuart Edwards (@StuartEdwards) March 9, 2021
Bekah decided to compile a list of six simple ways men can help make spaces for women. The list has gone viral, for all the right reasons. Bekah also mentioned, "There are plenty more to be said but this is just a start." She wrote: "If you hear a woman being bothered, walk over, and support her. You could pretend to be a family member, a friend, or perhaps even a boyfriend if a man is really bothering her and she seems distressed. It would be greatly appreciated."
It’s these small things that make so much of an impact. This is a thread that everyone needs to see.— Evan Oliver (@DarkstarEvan) March 11, 2021
She continued, "If you hear your friends or men around you speaking in a derogatory way about women or a particular woman, CALL THEM OUT! Don't let them get off lightly. Do not stay silent. Men should be educated, women should not have to be harassed." Many times, women are scared to step out when it gets dark, and they have to walk in deserted streets. Keeping this in mind bekah wrote, "If a woman is walking alone (particularly at night), leave space/distance between you and her or cross the road so she knows you are not following her. This will make her feel more at ease and feel like she's not being pursued. Don't walk at her pace, [instead] cross over, and overtake her."
video i saw on tiktok about man pretending to know girl so she would stop being harassed. i’ve seen people say they’d feel creeped out etc so i think it’s personal preference. personally i would be very thankful. pic.twitter.com/gEHq2fwAuX— bekah (@spvcecadets) March 12, 2021
'don't disrespect her' 'leave her alone' 'you're being a creep' 'stop making her uncomfortable' 'don't be weird' 'the way you speak abt women is disgusting' 'let her talk' 'you're lying' 'she's not interested'. speak with your chest. stand firm in support. demonstrate your values— déjà rêvé (@jade_edmiston) March 11, 2021
She also explained how it would make women feel safer if men kept their faces visible. That is, of course, unless they are wearing a mask because of the pandemic. "If you are running at night, make sure to breathe heavy or make much more noise so she does not get spooked out when you run behind her and past her." She also went on to clarify, "I’m not saying start panting like a dog, maybe just cough to let the girl know ur behind her so she doesn’t get spooked." While these bigger gestures matter and are important, so are other, more subtle ways of making women feel safe.
I've also seen people say women are too overly sensitive when a guy looks at them in a non threatening way. Have you ever thought that she is traumatized bc she has been in so many uncomfortable situations with men that she just doesn't feel comfortable. Please respect our space.— ᴮᴱJINius prince⁷ 👑💜⟭⟬ (@JJ01263) March 11, 2021
"Never ever victim blame a woman when she opens up about past experiences," bekah stated. "Even the smallest experience can be traumatic and last a lifetime. Support her. Do not say 'what about men?' or 'it's not all men' because it is all women. Do not pass it off as nothing." While this is the bare minimum, the expectations are really that low, to begin with. But more and more people are talking about women's safety following the disappearance and subsequent revelation of Sarah Everard's brutal murder at the hands of a police officer. This case prompted the British Prime Minister's office to announce "immediate steps" to improve the safety of women and girls in England and Wales.
Clearly true in the U.S. as well.— Michael Ivy, MD (@MikeIvyMD) March 17, 2021
The Sarah Everard case shows society's rules for women don't matter if men intend to harm us https://t.co/XUELkdKCOd
According to the BBC, these safety measures include an additional £25 million (or $34 million) for better lighting and CCTV as well as a pilot scheme, which would see plain-clothes officers in pubs and clubs. The irony of installing more cops after this case was clearly noted by many on social media. "Women won't be able to trust that they are safe until misogyny and racism are tackled at an institutional level within government, police, and the criminal justice system," a spokeswoman for the organization Reclaim These Streets said.